How to Become a Confident and Effective Networker

Many of my career mentor members tell me that they find in person networking to be a difficult and stressful experience.  Yet, networking is the best way to find a job or to advance in your career.

Here are some of my best thoughts on how to become an expert in person networker…

  • Be confident.  You have something to offer, even if you’re out of a job and looking.
  • Begin by getting to know people.  There will be plenty of time to ask for favors or referrals later.
  • Give before you get.  When you meet someone new think about what you can do to help him or her, not what he or she can do to help you.
  • Introduce people who you think should know one another.
  • Be generous with your praise.  Everybody likes positive comments.
  • Listen more than you speak.  Use the 1/3 — 2/3 rule.  Speak 1/3 of the time, and listen 2/3 of the time.  People will think you’re a brilliant conversationalist.
  • Share information about yourself, your passions, interests, family.  This makes it easier for other people to engage with you.
  • Welcome other people into your conversations.  Don’t let someone stand there all alone.  A three way conversation can be more interesting than a two way one.
  • Follow up with people you meet.  Ask them to meet for coffee or a drink.  Keep the conversation going.

If you follow these simple ideas you’ll do well at networking events.  Remember, take it slow.  Get to know people before you ask for their help.

Your career mentor,


PS: I write this blog to help people create the life and career success they want and deserve.  Now I’m going one step further.  I’ve created a membership site in which I’ve pulled together my best thoughts on success.  And, as a reader of this blog, you can become a member for free.  Just go to to claim your free membership. You’ll be joining a vibrant and growing community of success minded professionals. I hope to see you there.

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