How to Resolve Conflict in a Positive Manner

Relationships are an important key to your life and career success.  Successful people work hard to build and maintain strong, mutually beneficial relationships with the important people in their lives.

However, no matter how strong your relationships you are sure to find yourself in conflict with someone at some point.

This article tells you what to do when you find yourself in an argument — conflict.

These are all good pieces of advice. However, the best piece of advice on how to handle conflict is counterintuitive — focus on where you agree, not disagree with the other person.

When you focus on where you agree — even if it’s a very small point — you can begin to create a solution that is mutually satisfying.  When you focus on where you disagree, you tend to dig in your heels and fight hard to win your point.  This means that you are unlikely to listen very well, and really understand the other person’s point of view.  But when you can find some point of agreement, you get past the point of defending your position and move into a creative space where you both can work together to come up with something that resolves the conflict.

Try this.  It works.  The next time you find yourself in conflict with another person, look for something on which you agree.  Then use this point of agreement to build a mutually agreeable solution to your differences.

Your career mentor,


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