Self Confidence and Experience

Today is Monday, so this post is on self confidence.

Stan Smith is a legendary tennis player.  He has won Wimbledon and the US Open.  In 1972, he ended the year as the number one player in the world.  He is a member of the Tennis Hall of Fame in Newport, RI, USA.

The other day, I came across a great quote from him, “Experience tells you what to do.  Confidence allows you to do it.”

I liked Mr. Smith’s quote because it relates to all three aspects of self confidence: optimism, dealing with your fears, and surrounding yourself with positive people. 

Experience can be a cruel teacher.  The best learnings seem to come from the worst experiences. 

To take advantage of your experience, you need to be optimistic.  You need to believe that you can learn something from your failures and put this knowledge to good use. 

You also need to be willing to face your fears.  You need to be willing to put yourself back in a situation in which you have previously failed, and try something new that will help you succeed.

Finally, you need to have a cadre of supportive, positive people around you.  These people can help you stay optimistic and help you face your fears.  These positive people can also coach you to help you determine what you are going to do to turnaround your performance.

The common sense point here is simple.  We all fail from time to time.  Career and life stars use the experience they gain from these failures to move ahead in their lives and careers.  They use their optimism, willingness to face their fears and the positive people in their lives to build their confidence to help them take advantage of their experiences.

That’s it for today.  Thanks for reading.  Log on to my website for more common sense.  Check out my other blog: for common sense advice on leading people and running a small business.

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