Start With the Person in the Mirror

Members of my career mentoring site know that I believe that the ability to work well with others is an important advantage when it comes to life and career success.  Sadly, not everybody works and plays well with others – and too many of these people think that it’s everyone’s fault but theirs.

Recently, I saw an article on line by Dan Rockwell that listed three clues that you may need to change your thinking about how you work with others.

  1. You repeatedly complain about others.
  2. No one is good enough, except you.
  3. Your first thought is how others need to change.

Dan is on to something here.  And it reminds me of the Michael Jackson song, “The Man in the Mirror.”   When you find that you have a difficult time getting along with people – when you think that they need to change, to be more like you – that’s when you need to ask yourself a simple question: “What can I do to make this relationship work better?”

In this way you stop whining and start taking your share of the responsibility for working productively with others.  Focus on what you can do – not what you want others to do – and you’ll find that you’ll begin building strong, productive relationships.

Try this – it works!

Your career mentor,


PS: I write this blog to help people create the life and career success they want and deserve. Now I’m going one step further. I’ve created a membership site in which I’ve pulled together my best thoughts on success. And, as a reader of this blog, you can become a member for free. Just go to to claim your free membership. You’ll be joining a vibrant and growing community of success minded professionals. I hope to see you there.

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